How do I know if my therapist is not a good fit?
How can you know if a therapist is NOT right for you? If he or she:
- Says something that makes you feel uncomfortable.
- Falls asleep in the middle of the session.
- Has nothing to say to you that’s helpful or comforting.
- Doesn’t make you feel heard or understood.
- Makes you feel judged.
- Says something offensive.
What will you do if you are referred a client you are not competent to treat?
If you end up deciding you’re not competent to treat a client, be sure to arrange for him or her to transition to appropriate care, says Courtois. For starters, explain why you are ending therapy in a clear, supportive and specific manner.
Is your therapist a good fit for You?
But, as with any professional, therapists run along a spectrum of skill, talent, and credentials; basically, there are tons of great therapists out there, and there are other not-so-good ones. And sometimes, even a good therapist might not be a good fit for you, and it’s important to figure that out.
Do you have enough trust with your therapist?
And without feeling heard in the therapeutic setting, it’s unlikely you’ll garner enough trust with your therapist to effectively navigate your healing process. Believe it or not, psychotherapy is not about getting a bunch of advice from your counselor.
What is a good relationship with a therapist like?
Darin Bergen, a clinical psychologist in private practice in Portland, Oregon, tells Bustle via email that a good relationship with a therapist “should allow you to feel like you can be yourself completely, and anything that gets in the way of that would be a red flag.”
What are the signs your therapist is not listening to you?
“If you don’t feel listened to, and you get the sense that the therapist is tuned out or preoccupied,” says Dwyer, this is a red flag that a therapist’s listening skills aren’t up to par. And without feeling heard in the therapeutic setting, it’s unlikely you’ll garner enough trust with your therapist to effectively navigate your healing process.